There are moments in life, especially as we move into middle age, that are bright lines between what was and what will be. My journey to my mother’s small Minnesota hometown, alone, to settle her sister’s affairs was one of those bright line experiences for me. My aunt Lucy was born and died in the… Continue reading A Legacy in Bloom
Dear Susan, Here is what passed for convivial holiday conversation at our house this year: “Are they from Mexico?” “No.” “Are they expired?” “No.” “OK, then. I’ll take a few.” Forget the present exchange on Christmas Eve; my husband and I exchanged antibiotics, as he turned the corner on his bronchitis while I began my… Continue reading Three Wise Men and a Lunar Module
Dear Susan, As we approached the wedding venue, Ted whispered, “Just so you know, we’re sitting on the groom’s side.” I snorted in response; we were attending our first same-sex union. It was all the groom’s side. This led to a plethora of other questions: would both grooms walk down the aisle (they did), would… Continue reading The Bridegrooms Cometh
Dear Anne, “So what advice do you have for us?” Little more than a week ago, one of my son’s friends asked us that question, during dinner on the eve of their college graduation. I think he was sincere, or maybe he was just being nice because I had plied them with steaks and brought… Continue reading Four Interviews and a Funeral
Dear Anne, We will have an empty seat at the table this Thanksgiving, since we lost hubby’s father in April, and losing Barney just last month leaves an empty space under the table, too. And while it’s not in the same league, my oven just broke, days before the biggest cooking marathon of the year—a… Continue reading Christmas, Wait Your Turn—Celebrating Thanksgiving With a Grateful Heart
Dear Anne, Almost four years ago, my mom gave me a great gift. She moved out of my childhood home in Virginia and into a retirement community near me in Pennsylvania, giving us more time with her and fewer worries about her health and safety. Along with that gift, came another one—Grandma’s standard poodle, Barney,… Continue reading The Greatest, Weirdest, Gift–And a Dog’s Goodbye
Dear Susan, Have you ever been someplace that took you so far out of reality that you found it hard to re-enter real life? Apart from Spain? Sometimes, I think we get a glimpse of heaven here on earth, in terms we can understand. You may not think of Universal and Walt Disney World as… Continue reading Locked Out of Heaven?